The American Resurgence

Came across this article today about how upwards of 25% of all married couples sleep in separate beds.  According to the article the National Association of Home Builders expects 60% of custom homes to be built with dual-master bedrooms by 2015.

To be perfectly honest, I believe this is a result of the completely horrendous state of marriage in our country.  To be perfectly honest I think it’s completely selfish.  This is confirmed in the article by a woman named Barbara Tober who said “Not that we don’t love each other, but at a certain point you just want your own room.”  If that is the perspective that you have on marriage, then I’m sorry, but you’re already divorced.  Even if you never actually get a divorce, you are functionally divorced because your priority is yourself, and not your spouse.

The marriage bed is analogous for the whole marriage.  Sleeping in one bed is akin to spending one life together.  Is it always easy?  No.  Sometimes he snores, sometimes she flips around like a pancake, and eventually someone is going to get kicked (accidentally, I’m sure).  But guess what: you suck it up.  Why?  Because you love them, want to be with them, and it’s not about you.

Now, all that being said, there are circumstances where it’s ok to sleep separately.  These are rare instances, and usually involve injures or illnesses.  Other occasions might include something like the husband getting back very late, and not wanting to disturb his wife.  However these are exceptions to the rule, and are to be avoided.

I’m sorry, but your husband watching Sports Center is not an excuse to sleep in a different room.  Snoring?  Sorry.  If you think you have an excuse, then you have something to work through, not something to run from.  The intimacy that sleeping together brings can’t be found anywhere else.

Remember this: your marriage is not about your happiness, but your holiness.  Your marriage is supposed to show you how much you need Jesus, because without Him, no marriage can truly work.  If you devote your life to serving Him and your spouse, then even when things are hard you can have contentment in your marriage.

Original Article:

http://www.today.msnbc.msn.com/id/38410209/ns/today-the_new_york_times?GT1=43001

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